Are you considering hiring a doula or midwife for your pregnancy and birth journey? As a doula and childbirth educator with Fruitful Seasons, I’ve worked with many expectant parents, and I know that reaching out to a birth professional can feel both exciting and overwhelming. To help you prepare, I’m sharing five key questions you’re likely to be asked when you contact a doula or midwife. Thinking through these questions ahead of time will not only make your conversation smoother but also help you clarify your needs and preferences.
1. What Support Are You Looking For?
When you reach out to a doula or midwife, one of the first things they’ll want to know is how they can support you. Are you looking for help creating a birth plan? Do you want someone by your side throughout labor? Or perhaps you need guidance after the baby arrives, such as tips for establishing a routine or managing life with a newborn. Some parents seek advice for specific concerns, like navigating a home birth or even a free birth (an unassisted birth). Take time to reflect on your unique needs so you can clearly communicate how a doula or midwife can best assist you.
Tip: Write down what you hope to gain from their support. Are you seeking emotional encouragement, physical assistance, or informational guidance?
2. What Questions or Concerns Do You Have About Pregnancy or Childbirth?
Your doula or midwife will likely ask about any questions or worries you have. This is your chance to share what’s on your mind, whether it’s about labor, postpartum recovery, or specific health concerns. To avoid feeling put on the spot, start a running list of questions now. I recommend using a note-taking app on your phone to jot down thoughts as they come up. This way, you’ll be ready to discuss your concerns and get the answers you need.
Tip: No question is too small! Whether it’s about pain management options or breastfeeding, your doula or midwife is there to help.
3. How Are You Preparing for Birth?
Doulas and midwives love to see parents taking an active role in preparing for birth. They may ask what steps you’re taking to educate yourself and stay healthy. Are you reading books, watching educational videos, or joining support groups? Are you following a specific diet or exercise routine? Sharing these details shows that you’re proactive and helps your doula understand your approach to pregnancy. If you’re unsure where to start, don’t worry—this is a great question to add to your list for discussion.
Tip: Mention any resources you’re using, like books, online communities, or local friends who are supporting you. If you need recommendations, just ask!
4. How Do the People in Your Life Feel About Your Choices?
Your support system plays a big role in your birth experience, so your doula or midwife will want to know how your loved ones feel about your decisions. Are your partner, parents, or close friends supportive of your plan to hire a doula, have a home birth, or give birth in a hospital? Is there any tension or stress around these choices, or do you feel uplifted by their encouragement? Being open about your circle’s dynamics helps your doula or midwife tailor their support to your situation.
Tip: Reflect on how your spouse, family, or friends react to your plans. This insight helps your doula anticipate any challenges or opportunities to strengthen your support network.
5. Who Is Invited to Your Birth, and Where Will It Take Place?
Finally, your doula or midwife will want to know the logistics of your birth. Where are you planning to give birth—at a hospital, birth center, or home? Have you consulted with a medical team or made arrangements, like touring the facility or starting the hospital admissions process? They’ll also ask who you’ve invited to be present, such as your partner, mom, sister, or best friend, and whether they’re supportive. If you have children, will they be there? Understanding these details helps your doula prepare for the dynamics of your birth environment.
Tip: Make a list of who will be at your birth and where it will happen. This clarity ensures everyone is on the same page.
Get Ready to Connect with Confidence
Before you call a doula or midwife, grab your phone or a notebook and jot down your thoughts on these five questions. Being prepared will help you feel confident and make the most of your conversation.
At Fruitful Seasons, we’re here to support you every step of the way. If you’re looking for more guidance, check out our birth services, doulas, or childbirth educators — or join our supportive Facebook group to connect with others at any stage of their pregnancy journey.
Ready to take the next step? Reach out to a doula or midwife today and start building the birth experience you envision!
